Speeches

Generally, the best man acts as the toastmaster, and prepares a list of the order in which each person will make a toast. There is an established protocol which the couple may or may not choose to follow.

Microphones:   You want the toast to be heard by all, so be sure to check with the reception hall regarding availability of a microphone for speeches. Also check with your musicians as they may provide this for you provided they are setup when it time to give the speeches.

Special Considerations: Be sure the person giving the toast can be seen by all. Use a stage or open area that is visible to all your guests.

Rehearsal Dinner

You might follow this order:

• The best man toasts the bride
• The bride toasts the groom
• The groom toasts the bride's mother
• The bride's father may toast the groom's parents

During the Reception

You might follow this order:

• The best man toasts the bride and groom
• The groom toasts the bride and her family
• The two fathers toast the bride and groom
• The bride and groom toast each other

Tips for that Perfect Toast

• Don't be long-winded.
• Stand to give a toast; remain seated to receive one.
• Prepare ahead of time; know what you are going to say.
• Mention those you are toasting by name, your relationship to them, and a thought about this wonderful event.
• Add witty anecdotes wherever possible, if they are in good taste.
• Speak slowly and loudly enough for all guests to hear.
• You may want to avoid consuming alcohol before your toast.
• Celebrate the love you see in the couple!